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Going on
a first date with someone
is, as we all know, a nerve
wracking experience, but we
all have to start from
somewhere. However, with the
right state of mind, the
right dating and
relationship advice. The
location and outfit are the
only thing to worry about
and whether the other person
is the mate for you (or
worthy of a second meeting).
Here you
will find a few bullet
points and then some more
detailed online dating
advice (which may seem
obvious but is easily
ignored) on how to avoid
unnecessary uncomfortable
situations which can result
in an anti-climax, and of
course to ensure you have a
good time and a good sense
of what it is that is
sitting in front of you:
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Dating Tip
1.
Convert in
your mind the
feelings of nerves
to excitement |
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Dating Tip
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Look (feel)
comfortable and
presentable (clean
and tidy)
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Dating Tip
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Relax
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Dating Tip 4.
Be
aware of yours and the other
persons body language (it
communicates at least 50% of
what we really mean)
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Dating Tip 5.Don't talk about
your future together
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Dating Tip 6.,
Don't
drink too much alcohol (you loose
your clear sense of judgment
and can make easy mistakes)
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Dating Tip 7.
If you
smoke, Don’t chain smoke (it shows
insecurity and is unattractive), if
the other person is a non-smoker be
considerate.
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Dating Tip 8.
Avoid
talking about negative stuff, the
first date is not a platform for
moaning, you are there to have a
good time.
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Dating Tip 9.
Don't share too
much personal information about
yourself on the first meeting,
mysteriousness is sexy and exciting,
besides it's never advisable to open
your soul to a stranger.
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Dating Tip 10.
Remember you
arranged a date not a therapy
session.
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Two More For
Free! |
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Dating Tip 11.
Be in the
moment don't let eyes wander- it's
rude.
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Dating Tip12.
Most important
be yourself (with a spark) because
yourself is what you will always be.
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The
meeting place
It is
always better to know where
you're going, meeting and
then deciding can be an
adventurous shared
experience but not advised
for a first date. If the
other hasn't suggested take
the initiative on setting a
time and place (a strong
character trait opportunity
being exposed at the same
time). Comfort is the number
one key to a good date,
therefore the the suggested
place should be one where
you can feel at ease. Your
local or usual hang outs
however is a bad idea as
there is a bigger chance you
may be distracted by people
you know and make the other
person feel as if he is
imposing on your territory. |
For a
first date it is advisable
to choose something
light-hearted such as lunch
or coffee. It eases the
pressure from the male who
doesn't yet know you and
might assume an expensive
dinner is the key to wooing
the lady - and both of you
may find yourself in a place
that doesn't really
compliment who you really
are. Day time meetings can
easily eliminate awkward
situations and temptations
of inviting one back to
house for "desert"- (a first
date no go, however strong
the sexual desire may be).
It is
important too to choose a
place where conversation can
be heard easily without
having to strain the vocal
chords, though a place too
quite might make one feel as
if they are being listened
too and self consciousness
and paranoia make kick in.
Going to
the movies on a first date
with a stranger is a myth
which needs to be busted,
it's anti social and the
last thing you'll be
thinking about is the movie,
more like "can he/she hear
my bowl movements in this
silence?".
Conversation There is
nothing more painstaking
than long silences between
two people who hardly know
each other. First of all if
this happens try and relax,
otherwise nothing will come
to mind to talk about, it
too is not an opportunity to
start downing a drink-if you
seem nervous it will make
the other feel nervous too.
There is
no doubt in the fact that we
all like to talk about
ourselves, it is one area in
which we are the number one
experts and no one can argue
that. Nonetheless ranting on
about oneself on a first
date can come across as self
obsessive and that is not a
very attractive
characteristic.
If you
are going on a date with
someone to get to know them
then the best way to do so
is by asking them
questions, showing interest
in them and opening up
opportunities of discussions
on topics which come up as a
result. Saying that is
more important to listen to
what is being said and only
after the other person has
finished then a response is
appropriate.
There is
nothing ruder than asking a
question and then
interrupting. Avoid being
preoccupied with what you
are going to say next, this
obstructs you from listening
as as a result responding
relevantly. Showing interest
in someone else is showing
attentiveness, good
conversation skills and
confidence and you get the
bonus of learning more |
